Often when I tell people that my mom has moved in with us, their first comment is: “That’s just like having kids.”
No it’s not.
You can tell your kids what to do … and they listen. And when you tell them what to do, you can add smart parent remarks like, “Because I said so, that’s why.” And if they don’t listen, you can make them sit on the stairs alone for five minutes in time out.
Try that with your aging parent.
We come from a family of strong, independent, willful people. So while I may be stubborn, at least it comes honestly. So it should come as no surprise to me that my mom doesn’t want to do what I tell her she should do, like exercise and eat more greens.
The last time we had this discussion about food she said, “I’m 87 years old and I’ll eat what I damn well please.” She’s 87, so I guess she’s been doing okay without me telling her what to do.