Mom’s been a bit out of sorts this week. A little angrier and argumentative, it seems to me. I can’t say that I’ve handled it all that well. We were a little testy with each other the other night. When I told my sister, she asked me why I thought that might be the case.
Ah, and the answer hit me right in the face. Two things are making her upset. I work from home and from July through December I worked for a virtual firm. So I was at home most of the time. Now I’ve got a new client and I am at their offices at least three days a week, which means little face time. The second thing … we’re going on our first vacation since mom moved in. One week skiing. Heaven for me, not so much for her.
She doesn’t want to be alone, even though my daughter is here with her. I guess that’s not the same. She’s mentioned a few times that she’s going to be “all alone.” And not in a passing comment kind of way, but in a “I’m not intentionally guilt-tripping you but I can’t help myself” kind of way.
So when I put this all together, I get it. I can be more understanding. But it also means I’m still going on vacation. I’ll check in with her every day, make sure things are going okay, answer any questions she might have. The lesson learned?
Be more understanding about changes in schedule and routine. But still be kind to yourself. You need it.